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Daily Reading from Recovery Days June 30th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – review

Better than well

This month we have explored humility, not wanting, listening and keeping it simple. We have looked at how mindfulness can help us bring balance and calm into our days. The process of spiritual growth is gradually happening within us. You could say the same thing about learning to enjoy life. Perhaps the two are linked. We will not achieve this ‘better than well’ state without ensuring that our attitudes, aims and choices are right. Do I understand that the goal of ‘better than well’ is not a passive state but something to be worked for?

Every day that I try my best to follow the programme of recovery, I am learning new habits. Perhaps I can already feel the difference. Each time that I help another person, be true to my word and assert myself appropriately, I increase my self-respect. If I can tell myself each night that I did my best, then I will feel peace of mind and will thank my Higher Power for guiding me. I ask God today to continue guiding me along the route of spiritual progress.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days June 29th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – relax your whole body gradually

Steps Six and Seven

Judge each day by the seeds you plant, not by the harvest that you reap. We long for quick results that confirm our success and validate our self-image. Sometimes it doesn’t work like that. Maturity is about doing things that require the long view. It is a sign of immaturity to look for instant gratification – that’s how we used to be. Letting go of our childish ways is a part of growing up in recovery.

When I became a man, I put away childish things. St Paul, Corinthians.

Steps Six and Seven are about letting go. I must now be ready to let go of my character defects and the shame and guilt that go with them. This is not as easy as it sounds, unless I have help. Today I ask God for guidance in letting go of my past.

St Paul makes letting go sound easy but some of us struggle with impatience. We perceive all our tomorrows as an unbearable eternity. Much better to be patient. Can I take things a day at a time?

Daily Reading from Recovery Days June 28th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – enjoy the moment

Al-Anon

We who are in recovery have managed with the help of a Higher Power, to rise phoenix-like from the bonfire of our addictive vanities. But how should our loved ones deal with this strange but vaguely familiar creature that has re-entered their lives? People in early recovery are often touchy and emotionally fragile. The best thing that family members can do for this ‘phoenix’ is to stay detached but supportive while they themselves go to Al-Anon. Do I appreciate the power of Al-Anon?

If instead of a triumphant hero, our phoenix turns out to be a wobbly, ambivalent and slightly lame duck, that does not necessarily mean disaster. The first bab steps are often faltering. Family members are advised to remember the ‘Three C’s’ – I did not cause this; I cannot cure this, and I cannot control this. Sometimes loved ones are so desperate for the person’s success that they find themselves managing their recovery for them. But success will only come when the addicted person takes action. Today I give thanks for the fellowship of Al-Anon.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days June 27th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – send positive thoughts

Spiritual growth

Growth involves change. Twelve Step programmes are basically a re-training of our hearts and minds to new ideas. If we don’t grow, we are not living life to our full potential. Growth demands that we come out of our comfort zone. It may mean forsaking some familiar but negative patterns of thought and behaviour that we have become used to, but which now are no longer fit for purpose: unsuitable friends, inappropriate opinions and attitudes, and maladaptive coping strategies.

Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky.

Instead of fear of the new, my real fear should be of not making changes. Am I ready to make the changes I need, in order to grow spiritually?

My spiritual journey will be rewarding if I seek the guidance of my Higher Power. Only my pride or dishonesty will stop me from making progress. Today I ask that I continue to receive guidance on my spiritual journey.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days June 26th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – close eyes briefly

Mindfulness

Are you listening? When you’ve read this, close your eyes. Listen to the sound of your breathing, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Listen for your heart beating. Try moving other parts of your body. Can you hear tiny sounds of skin on skin, perhaps a joint gently creaking? Listen and identify if you can, the sounds around you. Buildings make sounds too. A door that shuts, a heating system that sighs. Footsteps pass outside, a dog barks, a distant car door opens. Our senses tell us so much. Take a minute to listen and relax. There is a reason for everything. Everything has its place and its purpose. Do I accept my place in the world today?

The simple sense of living is joy enough. Happiness starts with peace of mind.

Start by doing what’s necessary, then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. St Francis of Assisi.

Today I will practice mindfulness and give myself the opportunity to relax and think about my place in creation while I wait to do God’s will.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days June 25th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – review expectations

Balance

Too much self-improvement can be bad for you. Mental, physical and spiritual fitness are good goals to have, but trying to be Superwoman, Mastermind and the Enlightened One all at once or separately, can cause serious burnout. The SMART acronym helps: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound. Addicted people tend to be ‘all or nothing’ types, but what we really need in our life is balance. Am I ready to set myself the goal of achieving balance in my life?

Self-improvement should start with acceptance. We can all improve because none of us is perfect. Yet, there is good in all of us and we should start by recognising this fact before we make any plan for improvement. Too many people in recovery approach the Twelve Steps, especially Step Four, as a search for character defects alone, but it is not meant to be only that. We should celebrate our assets too.

We are surprised to find that we have good points in our inventory. NA Text.

Today I give thanks that I have character strengths as well as defects.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days June 24th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – enjoy the moment

Reaching out

In moments of great emotional distress, when a kind person says: I don’t know what to say, they should probably not say anything and just be there to listen anyway. A gesture, however small, is often better than words. When you smile at someone, it is a small act of kindness. It is quite likely that those who are happiest are those who do the most for others; it is certainly worth a try. Am I ready to offer help to others today?

In my father’s house there are many rooms. New Testament, St John.

I should imagine the world as my father’s house and people I meet, as his guests whom I should treat with care and respect. Of course, this requires humility and non-judgmental service. Have I considered treating others in the same way as I would like to be treated, if I were in need? Like it or not, I am a part of mankind, and I cannot stay detached, I must be involved. Today I ask God that I will not stay detached but instead that I will find opportunities to help others.

Daily Reading of Recovery Days June 23rd by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – relax your whole body

Today matters Nothing is worth more than this day. Wolfgang Von Goethe.

Sometimes we allow a day to pass when we are so preoccupied with trivial worries that we never consider what a wonderful gift we have. We should seize every day as if it is our last, but seize it gently. A lot of the time we are held back from doing what we really want to do through fear – of failure or fear of the unknown. It’s time to reconsider – life really is short. Will I enjoy every day that is given to me?

We live in a flash of light; evening comes and it’s night forever. Spiritual teacher Anthony de Mello’s writing also points out that all mystics, whatever their religion or theological views, are united in telling us: All is well, and all will be well. They say this in spite of the apparent mess that the world is in. It is up to me to have faith in creation and the Higher Power that gives me today. Sometimes it seems hard to be optimistic but if I hand things over to my Higher Power, then it shows lack of faith to think that disaster will follow. Today I ask God for the gift of faith.

Daily Reading of Recovery Days June 22nd by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – send positive thoughts

Potential for growth

If you found yourself in a wonderful museum or art gallery but you only had time to see inside one room, then you would come away feeling unfulfilled and disappointed. You wish you had been able to explore more of what was in there. Going through life without finding out everything you are capable of, is a similar wasted opportunity. Recovery from addiction gives us time to reassess ourselves. How excited would you be to discover that you can sing, paint or write a book? Am I exploring the full extent of my talents?

I wasted so much of my life in the mad maze of addiction. Do I really want to settle for the well- worn bits of me that I already know? Why not treat my recovery as the previously unnoticed doorway through which I can reach the secret garden that is the undiscovered me? My own self-realisation is good for me and for the world. I only have this life and every moment is precious. What holds me back from starting this exercise of discovery? Today I ask God to help me find all aspects of myself.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days June 21st by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – close eyes briefly

Empathy

A person with a big ego will struggle to find the empathy needed to offer true kindness. Addicted people are sick people, not bad people. They deserve to be treated the same as anyone in need of health care. When the day comes that they ask for help, it is important that they receive a good response. Most people in recovery never forget the welcome and the kindness that they received at their first meeting. The memory remains, because people remember how they felt at times of great stress. Will I show kindness and empathy when I offer help to an addicted person?

The first stages of recovery are a time of great vulnerability. It is a common experience that unites us in fellowship. The kindness and support that we all receive is a precious thing that we must keep alive by passing it on like an Olympic torch. In doing so, we are passing on our power – Higher Power. Today I ask God that I will always pass on what I receive.