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Daily Reading from Recovery Days October 8th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – review expectations


Facing challenges


Danish physicist and Nobel laureate Niels Bohr was born on this day in 1885. An agnostic with a sense of humour, he is famous for his dictum about the horseshoe he kept over his front door: They say it works, even if you don’t believe in it. Difficulties should be welcomed as great opportunities, he said: Every great
and deep difficulty bears in itself its own
solution. Such words should resonate with those in early recovery. Do I see life’s challenges as opportunities for growth?


Our ability as humans to create problems seems to be matched by our ability to find solutions. Here are some methods:

  • Keep positive: easy does it
  • Plan – a day at a time
  • Accept help: let go and let God
  • Focus: what really matters?
  • Don’t over-think: keep it simple
  • When I embrace challenges, I grow in maturity. It is all part of reversing the lifestyle that started with my powerlessness and unmanageability. I give thanks today for the Twelve Steps.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days October 7th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – Review Expectations

Unselfishness

Addiction makes us self-obsessed and it can be hard to break the habit. A life of focusing on our own needs turns us into super-selfish monsters. Unselfishness can be learnt. Here a a few things to try:

  • Listen with full attention
  • Give unconditional positive regard
  • Do not judge others
  • Try giving – of yourself
  • Consciously put your needs after those of others
  • Say a prayer for someone in trouble

Am i ready to work on my selfish attitude?

“Caring for others is the best way to fulfil our own concerns”. The Dalai Lama.

Today I will reflect on these words and try to care for others.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days October 6th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – close eyes briefly


Higher Power

Higher Power is not easy to define, and we will never know the true meaning. Here’s one person’s thoughts:
Does anyone have the foggiest idea what sort of power we so blithely invoke? Or, as I suspect, does no one believe a word of it? The churches are children playing on the floor with their chemistry sets, mixing up a batch of TNT to kill a Sunday morning. It is madness to wear ladies’ straw hats and velvet hats to church; we should all be wearing crash helmets. Ushers should issue life preservers and signal flares; they should lash us to our pews. For the sleeping god may wake some day and take offense. Annie Dillard, Pulitzer Prize winner.
Can I treat my Higher Power with respect and not take it for granted?


The point is, that what we need for recovery is a Power that is greater than the evil of addiction. Names and labels are less important. A ‘Power greater than ourselves’ is the requirement. I am grateful that I have a Higher Power to rely on?

Daily Reading from Recovery Days October 5th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – enjoy the moment


Revisiting the past


But Lot’s wife, behind him, looked back and she became a pillar of salt. Genesis.
There are dangers in revisiting the past, as Lot’s wife discovered to her cost. It is not wrong for us to do so, as long as we do not linger there too long. Even if our own past lives were not Sodom and Gomorrah, there is a danger that too much focus on the past may lead us to euphoric recall of imagined ‘good times’ that were in reality, anything but. In looking back, Lot’s wife displayed a very human side showing nostalgia for what was probably both good and bad. Am I ready to put the past behind me?


The past is another country, where we can no longer dwell, though we may visit. It is for many of us, a place of shame but it can also be a valuable asset. When I remember the past as something that it was not – a place of fun and thrills, I put myself in danger. But if I remember the past as it really was – a place of anger, hatred and dishonesty, I am giving myself a powerful reason to hold on to the blessings of my present new life. Today I ask for the honesty to confront the reality of the past.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days October 4th by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – feel your body from head to toes.


Problem-solving


You have a problem that you find stressful and as a
result, you drink. You then have two problems, and
your mental state now renders you less capable of
dealing with either. What seems a problem to one
person may seem minor to another. Some people
welcome challenges, some catastrophise the
smallest incident. Problems, in other words, are as
big as we think they are. Yet, if we sincerely trust
our Higher Power, we can deal with anything that
life throws us. Do I trust my Higher Power enough
to hand over the problems that I find difficult?


I can choose to change my attitude to any event by
handing it over to my Higher Power and trusting it
will guide me. Then I just need to sincerely try to
do the right thing, according to my conscience. At
such moments, it can help to have a role model in
mind – someone whom I really respect – perhaps a
fellowship member. If I can’t ask them directly, I
can ask myself: what would Joe do in this situation?
There is a solution to every problem, as long as I
seek guidance in finding it. Today I give thanks for
the guidance that I trust my Higher Power to give

Daily Reading from Recovery Days October 3rd by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – listen to your breathing


Doing things differently


Life is not a matter of waiting for events and hoping for the best. That may have been the state we ended up in, when our addiction was rampant, but things are different now. If we are to make spiritual progress, action is required. The process of taking positive action may be summarised as follows:

  • Have a wish or idea to do something
  • Visualise how you would do it and how that would make you feel
  • Ask for guidance
  • Commit to the action
  • Do it!
    Our thoughts, feelings and actions are all connected –we have our own personal way of doing things but we need to be sure that it is fit for purpose. Am I ready to follow a positive action plan?

Impulsiveness and thinking that I know best have proved in the past to be unsatisfactory methods of doing things. Today I see the value of taking time to consider my choices asking for guidance. I will remember that impulsiveness is old behaviour.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days October 2nd by Chris B

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Choices

Life is a series of choices. Some are more important
than others and then there are the big choices: what
we believe in, how we will live our lives. It is a
shame that we get so many choices wrong. Like
children, when we sober up, we must learn the
process of making choices. Most people process
choices through their value system, perhaps
subconsciously. But addiction has distorted our
values, so we are in danger, in early sobriety, of
making unhealthy choices. Our new life requires t
guidance. Will I ask my Higher Power for help?


Sometimes we are reluctant to make choices
because we fear possible consequences. Yet
hesitation and indecisiveness often make things
worse. The ancient Roman philosopher Seneca said:
It is not because things are difficult that we do not
dare, it is because we do not dare, that things are
difficult. Can I remember what it was that worried
me a week ago? Probably not. But a year from now, I
may wish I had taken some action today that I failed
to do, out of fear. I will seek help from my Higher
Power when making choices.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days October 1st by Chris B

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Remember Mindfulness – send positive thoughts


Self-discipline

Willpower alone is not likely to keep us sober for
long, but a bit of self-denial and unselfishness will be
helpful. Addiction makes us think only of ourselves
and it will do us good to start thinking of others for a
change. We may need to learn self- control, starting
with the little things, like not having that extra biscuit.
It will help our self-esteem to realise that we are
making mature decisions with good long-term
results. Am I learning to make the right choices?

Self-control is a practical technique that can help us
respond appropriately to temptation and overindulgence.
When we are dealing with spiritual
matters, we would be wrong to rely on our own
resources for the right response. It is much better to
allow ourselves to be guided by our Higher Power.
This is true when we are learning to deal with other
people as well. For most of us, handling
relationships in a good way is the most difficult
challenge that we face. Repairing damaged
relationships can bring challenges that we may feel
unable to manage, unless we can hand them over to
our Higher Power. Today I ask for wisdom and self-control
as I learn to handle relationships.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days September 30th by Chris B

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Mature relationships


This month we have looked at responsibility and
the need for awareness. In everyday life, the most
often-repeated challenges come through our
relationship with others. Relationships are often
difficult, but we can learn ways of dealing with
them. In recovery, we must be especially careful
because relationship problems can give rise to strong
emotions that we may still find hard to handle. Am I
working on my ability to handle relationships?


Steps Eight and Nine are when we put personal
responsibility into practice. Of course, it is
important to make amends to people we have
harmed – they deserve that respect. But, for us, this
is a moment when we really start to grow. A person
who has made a thorough and honest attempt at
Steps Eight and Nine cannot be said to be child
anymore, but rather, someone who can say:
When I became a man, I put away childish things.
St Paul, Corinthians.
Today I give thanks for the maturity that I am
gaining through the Twelve Step programme.

Daily Reading from Recovery Days September 28th by Chris B

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Emotional maturity


As active alcoholics, we lost our ability to choose whether
we would drink. We were the victims of a compulsion
which seemed to decree that we must go on with our
own destruction. Bill W.
Today I have the choice. I can choose to relapse and
lose my new life of fulfilment and purpose but at this
moment I do not wish to. I must take care to keep
in emotional balance because some extreme
emotion could put me in danger of making the
wrong choice. Have I made the right choices
today?


Making the right choices requires maturity. We all
have common sense but some of us have never
stopped being driven by our desires – that need for
quick gratification that a child often has. Maturity
comes from taking responsibility for our lives and
not expecting someone else to rescue us. In other
words, I must come out of the ‘child ego state’ into
the ‘adult ego state’. This is a big decision for a
child and is best achieved though taking small
steps. I ask God today for the courage to deal with
the world as an adult.